Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most importantly, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary. Steve Jobs
About 2 months prior to my birthday, I tend to freak out about my age and enter what I call, “A minor reality check”.
I had dinner with friends last night and I became the tail end of their age jokes however it really did not bother me. And I am shocked! However if they were to do that two months ago, I may have cried but this time I was laughing because as you age, it means you have more experience in life and heartache than others. Well, not necessarily but it does mean that being older than your friends means being born in the 80’s is a treasure.
I guess it just makes me think how my parents must have felt when their friends were younger than them and they were born in a different time period. Its pretty damn amazing when it comes to birthday. I strongly believe that one should celebrate their birthdays each year because in most countries, people are not able to live to see their birthday. Birthdays are a luxury because it means you survived life’s heartaches, obstacles and have become a stronger individual because of it.
I have also come to realize that with age as well as education, you may end up knowing nothing. Ok, bear with me.
One may believe that they have the answers to everything due to their experience. One may also believe that they know what they think they know due to what they have been told. However once a person becomes educated in literature or philosophy or even science, everything that you know becomes a giant question of “Did I really know what I knew or was it based on what I THOUGHT I knew”. Its confusing, even for me to write this because I am realizing that I don’t know everything AND, I am comforted by that. I am comforted in not know everything and re-thinking what I know. It shows maturity and my ability to not be gullible and believe EVERYTHING I’m told but that there are reasons and other entities that may question what you know.
I guess there really is no true definition of what constitutes as ‘grown up’. Of course I am one of those girls that have fallen under the ideology that by 25 I’m supposed to be done with grad school and beginning to establish the next stage of marriage and soon motherhood. But now that I think about it I ask myself, well what’s next after all THAT is established?
It seems generic lifestyle because that is fulfilling the American Dream and for some of those in the Generation X (I forget, the generation born in the late 1980’s) are redefining what it means to be ‘grown up’.
I am becoming more and more comfortable with my accomplishments in life and what I have and have not experienced yet. A large part of it has to do with the comfort my friends have offered (which usually involves late night In N Out runs and some amount of hard love) but also God. Perhaps He has plans for me that I am not supposed to know until it slams me in the face unexpectedly, which I am open to.
Life really is good. Life can be beautiful and humanity can be beautiful. It just depends on the type of lens you decide to wear.
Who made up these stupid ideologies that family is supposed to be everything?
Who made up the idea that family should be number one in a person’s life?
I would like to meet that person and slap them.
I know it sounds like I am a complaining teenager however I am in my late 20’s and living with your parents is a fucking nightmare. Not only do they not respect you as a human but they insist that you are the same 16 year old, irresponsible person and have no regards to acknowledge the fact that I am an adult.
Not only this but considering graduation is approaching, My family’s respect for me is dwindling and I am losing interest in having ANY participation or association with them because I am a woman. I am going to be 27 and I know what is right and wrong for me. True I make mistakes but I learn from them. I cannot have it right all the time but at least I am wise enough to understand and remember that life is beautiful and I’ll never be able to experience the ups and downs if I allow my family to dominate my emotions.
So cheers to this: becoming my own person and realizing that I need to cut the chord and fully emerge myself into life.
Easter is a time for Christian’s to praise Jesus that He has risen. However, it does irritate me with people who preach that they are Atheist and Agnostic (is that exists) yet celebrate holidays such as Christmas and Easter. They are Christian religions and it does make you look like a hypocrite when you celebrate these holidays but continue with your days preaching that you are not Christian. Where’s the silver line if there is one and where would you draw it? I am not one to post religious things on facebook so this will go to my tumblr.
And when one proclaims that they are Atheist and/or Agnostic, aren’t you still believing in something? You’re either believing that you don’t believe in God/a God or you’re believing that you NEED proof to believe. Either way, you’re believing so it cancels. HOWEVER MY POINT BEING, don’t celebrate holidays such as Christmas and Easter if you don’t understand the meaning of Christmas and Easter. They ARE Christian observed holidays and they ARE celebrated by those who believe in the coming of Christ as well as the death and resurrection of Christ. Ironic? Well so is being an Atheist/Agnostic and celebrating Christmas and Easter.
This has been my Easter rant.
For those who are Christian, He has risen. Give praise and glory to the One most high. He has saved our lives, suffered and died on the cross for us and return, we must live not to look down on each other nor should we judge, but we should love one another and respect whatever decision one makes because in the end, God knows us and loves us more than we will ever know. We are human and imperfect, we are not above anybody nor are we sent to judge. We are one kinship.
Happy Easter my Christian/Catholic brothers and sister.
My senior year has been quite adventurous. Meeting more and more new people, discovering feelings, recognizing the beauty that lies in every individual that walks into my life and strengthening relationships that I never thought were possible. Of course, I personally battle with my own doubts and confidence as a woman and a student, but its the people I choose to surround myself with that really cheer me on and pull me through.
I fell into the beliefs that as someone entering their late 20’s, I needed to act a certain way, behave a certain way and attain certain acheivement in a given time. However, with the help from my older friends, they have made me realize that NOBODY can tell you how to act, what to achieve or even what to believe just because of your age. I get to experience the college experience at a late age and its ok. The college experience according to me is staying out late, hanging out with friends (not neessarily drinking) and just being stupid.
Anyway, I’ve come across multiple walks of life and there are some that captivate me in ways that I will not express here. I will always remain finding the good in people and finding out what lies beneath the possible armor that they wear each day, to really see what lies in their heart. And sometimes, that is the risk and the adventure in it all. The human heart possesses dreams, desires, physical desires and soul that is disguised by bravado, intelligence and cynicism because of the fear that is created in us from society. ::sigh::
Don’t get me wrong, intelligence is a beautiful thing and attractive, but sometimes its a weapon of self destruction. If one continues the need to know everything (in either their field of study or in general) it may become a shield of protection from really getting into the wants and needs of the heart. Also, laziness can be used as a shield of protection from wanting to succeed and showing care into your studies because of the fear that others will tease you for it.
And than there are some people who don’t see the beauty inside an individual as opposed to the physical apearance. But that is where I differ; I know that I am a beautiful person and perhaps one day I’ll find that person who can see that and beyond the appearance I put on in front of people.
Life can be beautiful and so can other people, it just takes a person with imagination, patience, perception and optimism to look beyond the cynicism that surround life.